Nowadays we feel a lot of pressure for constant self-development. Self-development in itself is nothing bad, but it does carry the risk of never being satisfied with ourselves. How do we find balance in all this? Where is the limit, so we don’t overdo it and just feel bad about ourselves?

🍀 Remember that nobody’s perfect. No matter how hard you try, there is always something to improve in yourself. Do not get into a vicious circle of the never-ending struggle of self-doubt.

🍀The good thing is that you don’t have to be perfect. And you don’t have to be able to do everything.

🍀 Set yourself achievable goals and be consequent: it will make you feel better when you fail, as trying is already a big part of the job.

🍀 Don’t over compare yourself to others. Remember a poem called “Desiderata” by Max Ehrmann? It reads: “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

🍀 Bear in mind that self-improvement should be for your enjoyment and accomplishment, and not for fear of not being accepted by others. The same poem goes on to say:”Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time”.

🍀Work on self-acceptance. Remember that you are unique. Everybody is. Once again listen to the wisdom of “Desiderata”

“Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.”